It's pretty obvious that most guys have a hard time attracting women, especially the kind of women that they really want to date. Most guys don't look forward to getting shot down by beautiful women, but it happens all of the time. And most men end up kind of backing off of even thinking that they can get their dream woman and instead, they look to settle for whatever woman they can find.

Here are 3 common reasons why most guys have a hard time attracting women and what YOU can do about it:

1. Most guys are just too passive when they approach a beautiful woman.

It's touch to try and change your mindset when it comes to how you approach beautiful women, but if you want to make sure that some attraction is there, then you need to be less passive and a little more aggressive and confident. Don't get it twisted and become too aggressive though, because that can be just as bad and sometimes worse than being too passive. You have to turn up the manliness and guess what? Men are not supposed to be the passive ones when it comes to making the approach.

2. Most guys end up shutting down and having NO conversation, OR, they end up babbling TOO much.

Neither extreme is a good thing. When you shut down and have nothing to say, then it looks like you are either timid or you have no social skills. Women dig confidence and they dig guys with social skills. When you babble on too much, it comes across as nervous banter, OR, it will just end up annoying her. Either way, you are not doing the most that you can to make her feel attracted to you. You have to be able to strike a balance and hold a conversation that is entertaining, allows her to participate, and does not have awkward silences.

3. Most guys just don't have a clue on how to attract women.

This is really at the core of most guy's struggles with women. For the most part, men are not really taught any specifics on how to attract women. No one really takes you by the hand and shows you what works and what does not work. Well, if you are never shown the right things, then how do you expect to have any success at all attracting a woman? You need to pick up as much real world experience and knowledge as you can, so that you can go out and have the upper hand when it comes to getting women.

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It can be an uncomfortable and kind of awkward feeling if you don't know how to flirt with a woman. You are standing there, you want more than anything to make her laugh and smile, and your mind just keeps on drawing blanks. This happens to a lot of guys, so don't assume that you are alone in this. However, most guys don't really DO anything about it, and it causes them to shy away from situations where they have to flirt with a woman.

Here are some tips on how to flirt with women that will have you feeling more confident and get a much better response when flirting with a woman:

1. First of all, keep it light hearted and don't make it seem like it's a big deal to flirt with a woman.

Most of the "pressure" that guys end up feeling in situations where they are flirting with a woman is self inflicted. See, when you don't have a lot of success to recall in your mind, it can be easy to make things out to be a lot more heavy than what they really are. The problem when you do that is, you won't be able to come off as natural and you will also give her a weird vibe, and that will make the whole thing snowball into one of those awkward and uncomfortable situations for the both of you.

2. Concentrate on building rapport with her.

It's easy to flirt with someone that you have a lot of rapport with. When you get that feeling and she does too, then everything just kind of falls into place. Most men are too tied up in thinking that they need some kind of a gimmick or a trick to have success with women, when in reality, you need to build up rapport and make her feel comfortable being with you.

3. When in doubt, tease a woman to make her laugh at herself a little.

Get good at doing this, and flirting will become pretty easy for you. Most men are never going to tease a woman, because they think that it is wrong. Well, it is when you go for the things that she is actually self conscious about. When you tease a woman about little things, things that are not going to make her get all self conscious, it just becomes a fun interaction between you and her.

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You feel that your friend has started acting in a different manner towards you and you have a hunch that he has begun to fall in love with you but are not sure! If you want to know if his feelings for you have undergone a change then watch for the following signs.

He will be nervous around you
Does he act nervous when you are around? Does his self confidence vanish into thin air when you walk into the room? Give him a break and smile at him! It probably just means that he is crazy about you but does not know how to handle the rush of emotions he feels when he sees you. Give him time and sooner or later he will get more confident.

He may act cocky and confident
Sometimes, he can act real cocky and confident when he is around you to hide the butterflies in his stomach every time you are near! Watch him carefully and see if his smile or demeanor is a little too strained to be natural! You can find out for sure by talking directly to him and see if he can keep it up or whether he crumbles under your charm!

He might get tongue tied
If he is the shy type then he will probably get even more nervous when he sees you. He will be tongue tied and will not have a single word to say! The very fact that you are close to him - in flesh and blood - will intimidate him and he will show you how much he really cares for you. Give him time and encourage him and he will get bolder!

You will feel his eyes bore into the back of your head
If you find that his eyes follow you everywhere and he can't help but make eye contact with you - you should know that he is trying to tell you that he is attracted to you. He will take in your clothes, the way you walk, talk and carry yourself etc and everything you do will fascinate him if he is attracted to you.

He will smile at you a lot
You will receive your fair share of smiles from him and more! Every time you look at him be prepared to see that special smile coming your way. He will do his best to break the ice and get friendly. Don't be surprised if he finally walks over to say hello if you have responded with a smile of your own.

He will make silly excuses to come close to you
If he is truly attracted to you, he will do everything in his power to get to know you better. This means that he will take definite steps to become friends and get close. If he is already a friend, don't be surprised to see him grab a seat next to you, or find him at your shoulder just so that he can be close to you.

He will send you signals and vibes to let you know
If you want to really know if he is attracted to you, then try to intercept and decode the messages he will most surely send you. He will ask friends about you; make special gestures like a wink, smile or a nod to let you know that he likes you.

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If you are in an unfortunate situation where you like a guy but he does not seem to care about you then you will have to pound some sense into his head so that he sees you in new light. He has to realize that he won't find a better girl than you. If you are unsure how to go about this task then read on and find out.

Give him break
As strange as it may sound, this trick usually works. You will have to deliberately let him go. Just make a clean break from calling him or trying to impress him. This will get him thinking of you as he is used to your attention at all times. When a thing is unavailable it becomes more desirable.

Date his best friend
This is one trick that will make him go green. Date his best friend or better still his closest competitor. The moment he realizes that he let go what could have easily been his he will begin kicking himself.

Show him that you are as popular
He may be thinking too high about himself. If you want his attention then you will also have to climb the popularity chart to score a point. When you get popular you will have a lot of male attention and that will get him thinking of you.

Keep working on your looks
You will have to continuously work to get a better body. Your skin, hair and your general appearance will also have to change. He should see a steady transformation in you so that he begins to rue the fact that he let go a wonderful woman.

Act maturely
While you are doing all this do not make it obvious that you are doing all this to spite him. Act mature and confident and show that you are a woman of substance and character. He will now want to be close to you.

Do not act high and mighty
If and when he approaches you do not give him the cold shoulder. Accept his offer of friendship but keep it at that. He will now make desperate attempts to upgrade the friendship to another level.

Act as if you don't care
By now he will have begun to actively woo you. Show your indifference to his moves and carry on as if nothing is happening. After torturing him for a few weeks give him a lift with strings attached.

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A man will continue to chase a woman only when he finds her extremely desirable. Well, by desirable we mean that you need not look like a Barbie doll or a fairy. There are many traits that men find desirable and when they see a woman with these traits they want her in their life. Here is what you need to do so that your guy continues to chase you.

Sexy look
You should be oozing sex appeal. This should happen spontaneously and you need not have to put in any effort. When you are comfortable with the way you look you can concentrate on building up your sex appeal. You first need a great body, skin, hair and an attitude to match.

Maintain a safe distance
When you maintain a distance you become all the more attractive. The forbidden fruit always seems sweeter. You will have to do the disappearing act every once in a while. When you stay away from him he not only gets intrigued but also becomes insecure with the thoughts that you may fall for someone else.

Seduce him subtly
You will have to titillate his senses without appearing easy and sluttish. Highlight your assets and hide your drawbacks when you dress. The way you wear your makeup will also go a long way. Light makeup with clothes to match will do the trick. However, make sure that your neckline is a bit lower and your hemline is slightly higher.

Develop a multifaceted personality
If you take personality development seriously it will help you a lot in your professional as well as love life. When you have an interesting personality guys take you seriously as they know that you are not just a "Pretty young thing" but a woman of substance. This makes them chase you.

Don't give in early
Once you begin to get attention of the guy make sure that you don't give in too early as then your value will drop dramatically. Let him have the privilege of chasing you for some time before you give him a lift.

Talk less and listen to him more
Being a good listener is one quality that will make you stand out from others. When other girls go yak, yak, yakking you be cool and attentive to what your guy and others speak.

Positive vibes
Your guy should feel your energy and positive vibes when he is around you. When he notices that you not only are pretty and level headed, but you also know how to have fun and make others happy he will want you in his life at all costs. This will make him chase you forever.

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If you secretly like a guy you know and want him in your life then you will surely have to impress him to a point where he feels compelled to ask you out. If you are clueless how to get this done, read on.

Spend some time with him
You will have to spend a lot of quality time with him. By quality we mean time when the two of you are together without interruptions. When you do this make sure that every moment is full of fun and he enjoys your company. The time you spend with him should be exciting and full of laughter.

Flatter him
Compliment him generously for his intelligence and character. It is not a good idea to tell him how handsome he looks as he may have heard it before. When you compliment him on his lesser know qualities he will realize that you have an insight on his true self.

Keep in touch directly and indirectly
You don't want him to think that you are desperate. Therefore do hang out with him but make sure that you do not cling to him in your desperation to impress him. Keep in touch via email, text or by phone. Talk to him sweetly and ask him about his daily routine. However, don't call him every now and then.

Retain your mystery
While you are in the process of wooing him do not divulge everything about yourself. Once he knows everything about you he will not be tempted to ask you out and know you more personally.

Send subtle signals
Do not date anyone else while you are wooing him. He should realize that you are available if he makes a move. By not dating anyone else you will also embolden him to ask you out.

Voice your wish
In a subtle way tell him that you would like to go some place you like. Give him a hint that if he offers to take you, you will gladly go with him. It could be a movie, a play or a book reading session.

Attract him physically
It goes without saying that when you are doing all this you will also have to attract him physically. Dress well; smell even better whenever you are with him. Also make sure that you accessorize appropriately and look stunning. Carry yourself with dignity and impress him and other males around you. Very soon he will ask you out.

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A few questions you've probably asked yourself more than once

Have you by now gone on quite a few dates, not been able to extend any of them into a relationship, then continued going on other dates feeling even more disappointed and promised to yourself: "no more" - only to start chatting the next day once again with someone new and making plans to meet, hoping that "this time" it will work?

Have you, after not being successful to develop a meaningful relationship with any of your dates, resorted to telling yourself that you "haven't found the right person yet"? That "all those you've met were lacking something"?

Are you, in spite of all these disappointments, still hoping that "next time it will work"? That "with next date things will develop differently..."? That you will, finally, be able to develop a meaningful relationship?

If you've gone through all these stages, you're not alone. Many do. It is natural to be despaired, to rationalize failures, and yet to hope "for better days to come". Hoping and believing in future success is a motivating force to keep trying.

What having failed until now to cultivating an intimate relationship might say about you?

However, if you've been on so many dates and tried so hard to find a relationship, but in vain, it's time you ask yourself what's going on; what could be the reason for your failure.

* Could it be that, in spite of the many rationalizations and justifications you use the problem lays within you?
* Is it possible that hoping alone won't help you, since why should things be any different next time around?
* Does it mean that you need to actively do something you haven't done before?

The Journey to Self-Awareness

If you seriously wish to meet someone with whom to extend the date into a successful relationship, you need to ask yourself if there's anything that has sabotaged your efforts until now.

Such a question places you on The Journey to Self-Awareness. It forces you to look inwards, observe yourself, and stop finding one and thousand justifications to explain why you haven't yet been successful in developing a relationship until now. The Journey to Self-Awareness leads you to genuinely and honestly understand what's in you - in your attitudes, reactions and behaviors - that make it impossible to develop a meaningful relationship.

As you embark on The Journey to Self-Awareness and gain this understanding, you'll become able to extend a blind date into a meaningful relationship.

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In order to achieve everything you want to do, goal setting has a big role. Goals serve you as manual in accomplishing the objective of every project or venture that you will undergo. Your actions and your thoughts will be guided and your resources will be properly allocated.

Goals aid you to focus on your aspiration as you go along the way in accomplishing your end and at the same time help you evaluate the development of your of that objective.

Even when one goes on dating, it would always be better for him/her to set goals first. You don't know what to do and how to get what you desired if you don't set a goal. Many people don't know that there is a secret in setting goals which will be discussed below:

When we talk about dating, there are several kinds of goals you can set for yourself. Like you set the date when you want to meet the right person. Then, you think and set a goal of how you make your dates fun and memorable like going to different restaurants, events or other activities. These things will be done well if you set goals.

When you choose who you want to meet, who you want to be and how you want to grow as a person, all these things even need goal setting which for a fact, one has its own personal goals.

All of us might be agreeable that goal setting is very important. However, one important thing that you will always remember is to detach it from the outcome. I am not saying however that you don't have to be keen and fervent in achieving your goal.

What I want to emphasize is that while you are in the process of achieving your goal, you go with the flow. You have to be flexible. Challenges might come along the, so dance with the music but never allow yourself disrupt from achieving what you desired.

Well, it is just easy to say than to do but if you set goals, you can do it.

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During the early exploration of the things that make you want to move closer to your partner is a mystery. Mystery in your partner that makes you wants to know her much anymore. So for you and your spouse want the relationship still excited a good idea to keep the mystery in a sufficient concentration and can make each other crazy.

Keep yourself still withdraw

you should still try to always appear more attractive in front of your partner. Try to look for new ideas to spend time together. And discover the other side of your partner from the new experience. If you feel too comfortable with the situation now, then you will be trapped and afraid to try new things that will eventually lead to boredom.

Trying to make things exciting

you do not have to sit idly by and wait for your partner to create something exciting. Try to create new things to do both.

Do not Become Twins

you do not think that you can change a person when you and your spouse have been married. Because, background, experience, and make your partner's taste more different, than anyone else in this world including yourself.

You would be better to spend your time for a lifetime of mutual respect differences rather than trying to be the same person.

Do not think you can change a person when you and he married. Relationships like that do not apply. Background, experience, and taste make him a different person than anyone else in the world, including you. Even if many say you are both very similar, there would be no difference between you and him. Spend your lifetime for mutual respect for differences rather than trying to be the same person.

Quarrel

Avoid a fight is going to build a mystery, but this way is not good in a relationship. The quarrel is the spice in a marriage that can be a good thing to express the contents of each others thoughts and emotions to make that relationship even better. Do not keep your own emotions as you and your spouse is not a mind reader. It will not be possible you and your spouse can each know the contents of individual minds, if not disclosed. There is only one condition in revealing the contents of the mind are not revealing the words on purpose to hurt your partner.

Do not Lie

Mysteries can also mean to hold something? But the lie, deceive or cover up something that is important to know your partner is not a good thing, it can even damage the relationship and attraction to one another. Openness and honesty is an important thing in a relationship.

Sharing with your partner

we recommend that you and your partner are always sharing things important. Words that say marriage is a 50-50 approach, but the truth is a sharing relationship 100-100. Deepening the relationship very closely related to the deepening of knowledge between you and your spouse. Your partner should be one of the closest and most familiar with you. And your spouse is your place to share emotions and thoughts, because it will build a more complex attachment and dependence you with your spouse over time.

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One of the very worst things any man can ever say to us is that we're too clingy. It stings to hear that. It's also confusing. We may recognize the fact that we're a tad bit too possessive but when you totally love a man, it's hard not to be. But when does it cross over the line from wanting to be very close to him to being too clingy? There are some signs that being clingy is damaging the relationship.

One of the signs you're too clingy is you contact your man more than once or twice a day. Even in married or committed relationships, a couple doesn't often talk on the phone or email more than that. If you're dating a guy and you have a constant need to talk to him, that's a sure sign that you may be too clingy. That's even more pronounced if you're the one doing all the calling or you send the majority of the text messages. Less is always more when it comes to contact with your guy.

Do you ask your man a lot of questions about what went on during his day? It's obviously important to have an interest in what the person we love is doing, but it can subtly turn from interest to obsession. If you're asking questions about things like what he ate for lunch or who he talked on the phone to, that's edging into clingy territory. You may view this type of behavior as a desire to be close to the man you love. He likely sees it as akin to being stalked.

When you fish for him to tell you he loves you, that's another sign that you may be holding onto him too tightly. Men aren't always as open with letting us know how they feel. They tend to pace themselves when it comes to sharing their feelings so he may not say he loves you or cares for you as often as you'd like. If you find that you're asking him if he does frequently, he probably views you as being too clingy.

Jealousy is another of the signs you're too clingy and you need to adjust things a bit. Obviously, if you feel that your boyfriend is devoting too much of his attention to another woman you're going to feel envious of that. If that woman is just a co worker or a platonic friend, you have to learn how to temper your feelings of jealousy. Not wanting him to spend time with any other woman isn't healthy for the relationship and he'll view it as not only you being clingy but also you being insecure.

If you recognize any of these signs in your own relationship it's definitely time to take stock of your behavior. Being too clingy is destructive and you may come to realize that the man you are trying so desperately to hold onto to is leaving you because he feels smothered.

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